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Why can’t I leave, even though I know it’s bad? Knowing and leaving run on different systems.
Not being able to leave a relationship you already know is bad is produced by the structure of the relationship, not by a weakness in the person standing…
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How do I document coercive control when no single piece of it looks like anything?
Documenting coercive control means recording a pattern over time rather than capturing an incident, because coercive control is a course of conduct whose…
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How do I leave without losing everything? It is a sequencing problem, not a courage problem.
Leaving an abusive relationship without losing everything is a sequencing problem, not a courage problem. What determines how much a woman keeps is largely…
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Colorado custody law now names coercive control. Nobody goes to a lawyer saying “he controls the thermostat.”
Colorado House Bill 26-1309 placed coercive control inside the definition of domestic violence that a Colorado court applies when it decides parental…
Category: I’m Thinking About Leaving
If you are considering leaving or beginning to plan, these articles address the questions, fears, and practical realities that often arise during this stage.