THE METHOD
A three-phase way back to steady
Most of what feels like a personality trait is actually a pattern, something learned early and repeated since. My method is the order I’ve found that helps that pattern loosen: notice it, steady the body around it, then practice something different with the people who matter.
01
PHASE 01
Notice
Naming the pattern before it runs the show. Most reactions feel automatic until you can see the shape of them clearly.
In practice: a short body-scan and pattern log used in the first weeks of work together.
02
PHASE 02
Regulate
Steadying the nervous system in the moment, so the old response isn’t the only option available to you.
In practice: grounding tools you can use mid-conversation, not just after.
03
PHASE 03
Repair
Practicing connection in a new way with the people who matter, a little at a time.
In practice: guided repair conversations, first rehearsed, then real.
Where to start
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