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Three months from now, you will have language
for what you have been living with
Three months in, you’ll name a pattern for it. By six months, you’ll notice the pattern before it finishes. A year from now, this is one chapter, not the whole book.
Twelve courses, self-paced, on your own device, at your own pace.
The Naming course is free. Start on either page.
FREE · COURSE 01
The Naming
Recognizing what you need a name for: what is happening.
- Coercive control and pattern recognition
- The language for what happened
- A private starting point
This might sound like you
You override your needs to keep the peace.
You feel anxious when plans change without warning.
You go quiet before a hard conversation even starts.
What’s inside the Naming course
Five modules, all open from the start. Take them at a pace that leaves room to sit with each.
01 The Question You Came Here Asking
02 The Patterns that Define Coercive Control
03 The Cycle and the Chemistry
04 What This Has Done to You
05 Knowing What You Know
The seamless start
STEP 01
Open the course. No account, no payment, no email needed.
STEP 02
All five modules are open right away. Start with module 1.
STEP 03
Your place in each module is remembered on this device only. Clearing your browser data removes it.
Where are you in this right now?
Choose a stage to see its bundle below.
Before You Leave
For the woman still in it and considering what comes next.
As You Leave
For the woman preparing to exit, or who has recently left.
After You Leave
For the woman doing the work of recovery and rebuilding.
Complete Library
For the woman ready for all twelve courses, start to finish.
Before you leave
BEFORE YOU LEAVE
How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Controlling Relationship
For the woman who knows the slow disappearance has already started.
- See where your needs disappeared
- Practice choices without overexplaining
$107
Buy NowFINANCIAL ABUSE
The Hidden Money
For the woman who has no idea what she actually has access to.
- Map accounts and access
- Prepare questions privately
$107
Buy NowSAFETY PLANNING
Safety Planning When Leaving Feels Far Away
For the woman who is not ready to leave yet, but wants to be ready.
- Build a private first plan
- Identify safe contacts
$107
Buy NowAs you leave
AS YOU LEAVE
The Quiet Exit
For the woman who needs to leave without a scene.
- Plan the practical sequence
- Protect communication and privacy
$127
Buy NowBOUNDARIES
Going No Contact
For the woman who keeps getting pulled back in.
- Prepare for contact attempts
- Create scripts and supports
$127
Buy NowDISCLOSURE
How to Tell People You Are Leaving an Abusive Relationship
For the woman who needs the conversation to happen without another argument.
- Choose who needs to know
- Prepare language and boundaries
$107
Buy NowAfter you leave
TRAUMA BOND
Breaking the Trauma Bond
For the woman who still misses someone she knows was not safe.
- Understand the attachment cycle
- Practice staying through the wave
$147
Buy NowGRIEF
The Grief of Loving Someone You Still Love
For the woman grieving a person she had to leave to survive.
- Name ambiguous loss
- Make room for conflicting truths
$127
Buy NowSELF-TRUST
The Inner Critic in Their Voice
For the woman who hears the old criticism long after the conversation ends.
- Separate their voice from yours
- Rebuild internal authority
$127
Buy NowNERVOUS SYSTEM
Hypervigilance to Calm
For the woman who still flinches at a notification.
- Track activation
- Practice returning to baseline
$107
Buy NowRELATIONSHIPS
Choosing Safe Love
For the woman who wants to trust her judgment again.
- Recognize safety in practice
- Build connection without disappearing
$147
Buy NowBundles
Before You Leave Bundle
3 courses
Courses included
- How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Controlling Relationship
- The Hidden Money
- Safety Planning When Leaving Feels Far Away
$321
$321
Included at the listed price
Buy This BundleAs You Leave Bundle
3 courses
Courses included
- The Quiet Exit
- Going No Contact
- How to Tell People You Are Leaving an Abusive Relationship
$361
$327
Save $34
Buy This BundleAfter You Leave Bundle
5 courses
Courses included
- Breaking the Trauma Bond
- The Grief of Loving Someone You Still Love
- The Inner Critic in Their Voice
- Hypervigilance to Calm
- Choosing Safe Love
$655
$497
Save $158
Buy This BundleComplete Library
All 12 courses
Courses included
- The Naming
- How to Stop Losing Yourself in a Controlling Relationship
- The Hidden Money
- Safety Planning When Leaving Feels Far Away
- The Quiet Exit
- Going No Contact
- How to Tell People You Are Leaving an Abusive Relationship
- Breaking the Trauma Bond
- The Grief of Loving Someone You Still Love
- The Inner Critic in Their Voice
- Hypervigilance to Calm
- Choosing Safe Love
$1,337
$897
Save $440
Buy This BundleEvery course you purchase is yours for life. Take it at your pace and return to it years later.
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Free module preview
Preview the first module of any paid course before you buy it.
Free swap, not refund
If a course is not the right fit, swap into another course or bundle at no cost.
Built on the canon
Every course draws on established clinical literature, not opinion.
COERCIVE CONTROL & ABUSE RECOGNITION
Evan Stark, Lundy Bancroft, Carmen Mombourquette
TRAUMA, SOMATICS & PARTS WORK
Bessel van der Kolk, Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz
ATTACHMENT & CO-PARENTING
Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, Bill Eddy
EMDR & NERVOUS SYSTEM
Francine Shapiro and foundational EMDR research
Questions
Do I need to live in Colorado or South Carolina
No. Self-paced educational courses are available nationally.
How long do I have access
Course access details are shown before purchase.
How much time do these take
Each course lists its modules and expected duration.
What if a course isn’t the right fit
Eligible purchases can be swapped into another course or bundle.
Can I buy one as a gift
Email clientcare@relationshipabuserecovery.com for current gifting options.
Is there a scholarship option
Email clientcare@relationshipabuserecovery.com to ask about current access options.
Can I combine courses with an IOP or individual therapy
Yes, when the combination fits your needs and location.
Is this the same as therapy
No. Courses are educational and do not create a clinical relationship.